You died in my arms. You died in my arms. You freakin' died and then you left instructions
that I wasn't allowed to save your life.
You want to know what I'm scared of?
I'm scared of everything! I'm scared to move! I'm scared to breathe! I'm scared to touch you! I can't lose you. I won't survive. And that's your fault.
You made me love you, you made me let you in, and then you freakin' die in my arms!about grief
According to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, when we are dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss,
we all move through five distinct stages of grief.
We go into denial... because the loss is so unthinkable - we can't imagine it's true.
We become angry with everyone--angry with survivors, angry with ourselves.
Then we bargain... We beg, we plead. We offer everything we have. We offer up our souls in exchange for just one more day.
When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into depression, despair, until finally we have to accept that we have done everything we can.
We let go. We let go and move into acceptance.
In medical school, we have a hundred classes that teach us how to fight off death...
And not one lesson in how to go on living.
The dictionary defines grief as, keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss.
Sharp sorrow. Painful regret.
«As surgeons, as scientists, we’re taught to learn from and rely on books, on definitions, on definitives.
But in life strict definitions rarely apply.
In life grief can look like a lot of things that bear little resemblance to sharp sorrow.
Grief may be a thing we all have in common...but it looks different on everyone.
It isn't just death we have to grieve.
It's life... it's loss... it's change.
And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad...the thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime.
That’s how you stay alive.
When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive...
By remembering that one day, somehow... impossibly...it won't feel this way. It won't hurt this much.
Grief comes in its own time for everyone in its own way.
So the best we can do, the best anyone can do is try for honesty.
The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief, is that you can't control it.
The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes and let it go when we can.
The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again and always, every time it takes your breath away.
There are five stages of grief.
They look different on all of us, but there are always five.
Denial-- anger --bargaining –depression—acceptance.
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